What happens when you stop performing
Somewhere along the way you learned to be what other people needed, what they think you should be. You got good at it. So good you forgot there was someone underneath.
You also learned to protect yourself. The armour that kept you safe as a child - the withdrawal, the perfectionism, the people-pleasing, the staying small - became so familiar you stopped noticing you were wearing it. But it is heavy. And it keeps out the good things too.
These sessions are for the moment you realise the life you have built does not feel like yours. When the masks and the armour get heavier than they are worth. When you suspect the exhaustion and the quiet emptiness is not from doing too much but from being someone you are not.
This is not self-improvement. It is dis-covering. Finding out what is already here when you finally stop.
You were never broken. You were just buried.
Two therapists. So both people feel supported.
Love is not the problem. It is what we have learned to do in the name of love that causes the suffering.
You do not see the other person as they are. You see them through the lens of your own fears, needs, and conditioning. And they do the same with you. No wonder it gets tangled.
Relationship is not something you do. It is what remains when you stop managing, defending, and performing. The difficulty is rarely the other person - it is the unexamined expectations, the inherited patterns, and the confusion between what you need and what you are afraid of.
Clarity changes everything. These sessions make room for that.
In most couples therapy, one person may feel the therapist is on the other's side. Joint sessions at Still Heart always have two therapists in the room, so both people feel supported.
The model is tailored to you. Individual sessions can be with one therapist or both. Joint sessions are always held with two therapists. We discuss what works best when we meet.
When both people do this work, something softens. You stop performing and start actually being with each other.
For couples, families, and any relationship that matters enough to sit with the discomfort of change.
The relationship changes when the people in it do.
The cushion is easy. The kitchen is the practice.
You touched something real. Maybe in meditation, maybe on retreat, maybe in a moment you did not ask for. Now you are back in your life and none of it fits the way it did before.
It's easy to practise in a class, on a retreat, on the cushion. The hard part is Monday morning. These sessions are for that gap - between the peace you touched and the irritation you feel at the supermarket. The loneliness of having seen something you cannot explain to the people closest to you.
Sometimes the first step is just putting practice back in your day - making space for it among the demands of ordinary life. Over time, something shifts. The line between practice and life starts to dissolve. You stop going to the cushion to find peace and start noticing it in the washing up, the difficult conversation, the traffic. Eventually there is no line at all.
This is not about holding onto experiences. It is about letting them change how you live.
Healing and awakening are not separate. This work holds both.
What remains when you stop looking away
Many of us spend our lives avoiding the reality of death. Then something happens - a diagnosis, a loss, the simple weight of getting older, the passing of friends - and avoidance stops working.
These sessions are for people who are ready to turn toward what is real. Not to make death comfortable, but to stop pretending it isn't here. When mortality is met honestly, something surprising often happens: life gets simpler. Clearer. More tender.
You do not have to be dying to do this work. When death is no longer something to be feared and avoided, life opens up. You start making choices from what matters rather than what is safe. Conversations become more honest. Time becomes more precious - not in a panicked way, but in a quiet way. The living and the dying are not separate. They never were.
There is nothing to fix. There just is what is, and your willingness to be present with it.
When you stop running from death, everything becomes more alive.
Preparation & Integration
Before you go in. After you come back.
Plant medicine can open doors. The question is - what do you do when you walk back through them into ordinary life?
Preparation sessions help you feel informed, emotionally ready, and clear about your intentions - so you can approach the experience with openness rather than fear.
Integration sessions offer a safe, reflective space to make sense of what arose - the insights, the emotions, the challenges - and to explore how to bring them into your relationships, your work, and your everyday life in a way that lasts.
For experiences in legal settings only. These sessions do not involve the provision of plant medicines, psychedelic-assisted therapy, or referrals.
Arrive prepared. Come back grounded.
"When the heart is ready,Get in Touch
the next step becomes clear."